All text has subtext.
If a man approaches you at a bar and starts a conversation, regardless of what words he says, he is subtextually saying "I am attracted to you." If you're rambling when meeting someone you like, you are subtextually saying "I'm nervous right now," regardless of the actual words you are saying.
Every so often, when you flirt with someone who flirts back with you, and you see the smile on their face as you talk about something which by itself wouldn't produce such a smile, you realize the subtext behind your conversation: we like each other. And that's an amazing thing to hear. And as you talk, the conversation eventually slows because you both realize: both of us want to kiss right now, so why don't we just do it? Cue kiss, cut conversation.
But ideally, the conversation continues, but with kissing. Like a conversation drunk or high, you can experience a different mode of expression by speaking to someone with the subtext spoken aloud. A nice phrase: "I think Newport is nicer than Providence" becomes even nicer: "I think (kiss) Newport (long kiss) is even nicer (kiss) than Providence."
I asked during the podcast whether you'd be better off just kissing instead of going through a conversation. After all, why distract, why mess with what's working? And I concede that words can help, if only to communicate more fully.
Example: I used to have miracle fruit parties. Miracle fruit is a berry that temporarily shuts down your tongue's ability to taste sour. Once sour is gone, everything tastes sweet and it's interesting to experience food when everything tastes like candy.
Talking while kissing is an interesting experience, it's like having a conversation when every word is somehow a compliment.
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