Aug 31, 2009

Episode 3 - Height Differentials

Is there something hot about kissing people much taller or shorter than you?  We debate this, discuss midgets and give a how-to on reducing awkwardness when kissing someone of a different size.

The Panel: Bryce, Sean, Candy Ocho, Anatol Rosenberg and Greg.

The Debate: Candy and I argued that height differential make-outs are uncomfortable.  Sean and Bryce argued that it was hot.  Candy pointed out that kissing taller people makes you think of your parents, which is weird.  Sean says that may play upon subconscious Oedipal issues.  Bryce argued that there's a fun novelty to making out with someone of a different height.  Bryce acknowledges that it's a matter of degree, there are some differences that are too great.

Sean points out that the physical aspects of kissing is secondary to the psychological feeling of making out with people that represent figures bigger and smaller in life, like young people and authority figures.  I respond by saying that the physical aspect is still important and that the physical problems that may arise distract from appreciating any psychological benefits from kissing a taller or shorter woman.

I discussed a fantasy I had as a kid about the Fifty Foot Woman, who I found attractive despite the physical impossibility of any intimacy between us.  I feel this is the underlying issue in height differential make-outs: there's something attractive about these differences but the actual hook-up would be awkward because of the very thing that may have attracted you.

In the end, everyone seemed to want someone a few inches around their own height.  Everyone wanted taller except me, who was fine with shorter, but not by much.

Midgets: So people find midgets attractive, taboo as it may be to say.  Bryce and Candy were the only people who said they would make out with a midget with the proviso that they were attracted, which Sean points out is sort of circular.  Anatol suggested he would, but he seemed to be kidding.

Bryce pointed out that people would only make out with midgets for the story, which is actually incredibly sad.  We then said that there are lots of things we would do for a great story, including making out with a wheelchair person, difficult as that may be.  We determined only by sitting down could such a make-out work.  Ultimately, Bryce and Greg decided 4'2" was the minimum height for a make-out partner, but ultimately because of the possibility for stand-up fellatio.

How-to: Cowboy Will gives some tips on reducing awkwardness for mixed-height make-outs.
  • Better to be taller than someone than to bend town to accommodate them.  It's uncomfortable and awkward and not suave.
  • Avoid standing situations, try to lie down.
  • Laugh off the inevitable awkwardness.  Avoid apologizing or pointing out the weird things.
  • Don't touch and caress as much since this will highlight the height difference.
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Aug 24, 2009

Episode 2 - Music

Is it better to make out to music or in silence?  We debate this, review the MTV Top 10 Makeout Songs and give a how-to on incorporating music in your make out sessions.

The Panel: Bryce, Sean, Candy Ocho, Anatol Rosenberg and Greg.

The Debate: Bryce prefers silence, Sean prefers music. A point that arose early on is that music is distracting.  Sean pointed out that music reduces awkwardness and helps make someone comfortable enough to make out.  Bryce points out that music can go awry if the wrong song comes up or non-music comes up on your playlist.  For some reason we all agreed that if you do play music, it should have a male vocalist.


Reviews: On the program, we reviewed MTV's top 10 make out songs.
  1. Britney Spears: "I'm a Slave 4 U" - We were all stunned with disapproval.
  2. Chris Isaak: "Wicked Game" - People seemed to like it, I had never heard it before.
  3. Kings of Leon: "Sex on Fire" - No one had heard this song but we all knew about the band.  We voted nay, except for Greg.
  4. Nine Inch Nails: "Closer" - Divided opinions.  I think it's too harsh to make out to, others found it sexy.
  5. MGMT: "Electric Feel" - Sean loves it and thinks it works.  Everyone but Greg approved.
  6. The Donnas: "Take It Off" - We agreed this is not a make-out song.
  7. Christina Aguilera: "Dirrrty" - We all agreed this was ridiculous.
  8. John Mayer: "Your Body is a Wonderland" - John Mayer is good but Sean points out that the lyrics are too cheesy.  Will suggests "Great Indoors" or "Comfortable".  Bryce suggests Dave Matthews' "Hike Up Your Skirt" as a similar better song.
  9. Rufus Wainwright: "Instant Pleasure" - We approve
  10. Missy Elliot & Tweet: "(Oops) Oh My" - None of us had heard of it so we voted "Nay"
Greg suggests: "She Fucks Me" by Ween and Spiritualized's Live at Albert Hall.
Candy Ocho wanted to suggest a song but was unable to identify what it was.
Anatol Rosenberg suggests the Arcade Fire.
I suggest Ben Folds.  In particular, his slower, gentler songs, like "Boxing", "Eddie Walker" or "Selfless, Cold and Composed". 
Sean suggests Leonard Cohen, then Bryce suggested John Cale, which people seemed to agree with. 

Bryce suggests:
  1. "Air" by Jeff Buckley
  2. The Bends by Radiohead
  3. Nina Simone
  4. M Ward
  5. My Bloody Valentine - (The panel disagreed with Bryce on this one)
  6. Black Heart Procession
  7. "Smog" by Bill Callahan
How-to: Candy Ocho told us how to make a musical make-out work:
  • Wait for silence and then put music on.  Be smooth about it, don't take too long.
  • Volume should be at a 5/10, not too loud or too soft.
  • It's distracting to discuss the music or let the person pick it.  It should just be in the background, not a focus of attention.
  • Don't play such good music that people just want to listen/sing along.
  • Laugh off any weird stuff that gets played accidentally.

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Aug 17, 2009

Episode 1 - Alcohol

Is making out drunk hot or gross?  We debate this, review various alcohols for their make-out potential and give a how-to on making a drunk make-out work.

The Panel: Anatol Rosenberg, Rudy, Sugar Lips, Greg

The Debate: Anatol thinks drunk make-outs are gross, Rudy thinks they're hot.  My opinion of the debate was that Rudy did a good job of establishing that making out is easier to make happen drunk than sober.  However, Anatol was persuasive in establishing that it may jeopardize chances for a repeat performance and the experience itself is often so prone to faux pas that, even if the other person isn't scared away, the experience is sloppy.

I believe that make-outs can be passionate and wild without alcohol, but that alcohol's most useful function is to make a make-out happen the first time.  However, once it's started, it's then important to not be weird and establish a future, sober mak-eout.

Reviews of Alcohol:
  • Rudy: Wine - it's associated with intimate environments.
  • Sugar Lips: Champagne - it's classy and you can get tipsy quickly without getting hammered.
  • Anatol Rosenberg: Caffeinated malt beverages - it will give you energy while also getting you drunk, so you don't get lazy, bored or tired.
  • Greg: Whiskey - the kind of people who drink whiskey seem dangerous, which is hot.  It also dulls the taste of cigarettes, which Greg doesn't like.
Sugar Lips' tips on Drunkenly Making Out
  • Later in the evening, after some drinking, do shots. 
  • Don't order tequila, instead let your companion pick what their shot is of.
  • After the shot, say "I really want to kiss you right now" and/or brush against each other.
  • If not drunk enough say "Oh god, that shot was strong.  I'm going to order a chaser.  Would you like something as well?"  If she says yes, then she wants to be drunker, too.
  • Make a lot of eye contact and use your body language (face your partner and brush against them).
  • Say "I'm really glad we hung out" or something similar.
  • Put your hands on each others shoulders or faces to reduce sloppiness.
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